Have you ever heard the term love bombing? Love bombing is a form of emotional manipulation carried out by a partner by showering excessive affection, praise, gifts at the beginning of the relationship to win your heart with the aim of being able to control it.
But when you get used to all the excessive attention, your partner turns into a stranger, even tends to be rude. As a result, you wonder if you've made a mistake.
So that you are more alert and avoid unwanted things at the beginning of a relationship with your partner, here are 3 signs that your partner is doing love bombing. Come on, see!
Always Want Attention
At the beginning of a relationship, you may be happy when your partner always wants your attention. However, according to author and founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp, Amy Chan, a partner who is too clingy and overly demanding for attention can be a sign of love bombing to watch out for.
"A person who is love bombing uses their romantic targets to provide validation and attention and gain power over them," he tells Bustle.
"The difference between healthy romantic treatment and love bombing is that love bombing is used as a manipulation tactic with the aim of controlling the partner," he added.
If you feel your partner is too clingy and takes the relationship too quickly, try to have a discussion and tell the truth. Say that you don't want to rush and are trying to get to know each other as time goes on.
Say What You Want To Hear
Couples who do love bombing will do everything they can to get you on their side. The trick, they will say everything you want to hear, even if it means not according to the facts or the truth. This form of manipulation shows that a love bomber can do anything to control the situation as to ensure they receive love and attention in order to control.
Always Giving Expensive Gifts and Expecting Reply
Giving gifts is actually not a bad thing. However, receiving gifts or receiving gifts is a form of love language or love language. However, a love bomber gives an expensive gift in order to make you feel indebted.
Couples who do love bombing view giving gifts as an exchange, that is, they give in the hope of getting something in return.
"By telling their partner how much they are spending on them, they are measuring their investment and the value of the person," therapist Mallory Grimste tells Well and Good.