For husbands who always ask questions when their wives are angry, "What do you want?"
"Guess, man, what do you want!" Hahaha, kidding! Don't finish reading this article, you're even more lost because you can't find an answer. Indeed, often, when he is angry, the husband must become a psychic, mind reader, what else? The point is, the mind becomes full of puzzles, "What do you really want, anyway?" Not sure what's wrong with it when the wife is angry, some don't even realize that their wife is angry. phew! Well, please read carefully, yes, sir. This is what the wife expects when she is angry.
Ask yourself what's wrong and where
It's so absurd, indeed! There is a wife whose type is smacking but it's clear why she is angry, what she wants. There is also a wife who has been angry from the start, but her husband constantly can't understand what makes him angry. Maybe his wife was too tired to explain, then chose silence. With a heavy heart, you must ask yourself what was wrong and where.
Given time
(Read: okay, sir, it's up to him what he wants to do!) If you are tired, sometimes, at home, you can't help but get angry, sometimes the wife chooses to leave the house for a while, cool her head, so that when she comes home later , the mood is better for serving people at home.
Asked
Different people, different desires, sir. Here, after all, the husband should already know very well which type of wife he is, who wants to or who doesn't want to be asked. There are times when they are silent all day waiting for their husband to come forward, persuading the wife by asking politely, “What are you doing? What is my fault?" Yes, if you already know what's wrong, try replacing the question with, "I shouldn't be like that, right? I mean, well, this is…”
Take unified action
Usually it happens when the wife is angry in front of the child, when the child does something that is forbidden. Here the wife needs solidarity, aka, if the mother is angry, the father should not act otherwise, defending the child. Or worse, blame her mother for being angry all the time. Apart from triggering fights, it is also not good for children to see their parents not getting along. One said yes, one said no. One is angry, the other is defending. Of course, all of this needs a process and as a parent, you should be on the same page in terms of parenting.
Not rejected outright
There are times when the wife asks her husband for something, but what he gets is only, "No, what are you doing?", "Don't be weird, okay!". It's better if you answer, there are also those who don't answer at all. This applies in many ways, yes, including when you want to make out. Whatever it is, ignorance can quickly spoil a person's mood. It could be that behind the questions submitted, there is a big confusion, even it takes a long time to finally be expressed. It's been hard to ask, uh, even answered like that. It's natural, right, he's angry?
Keep trying
Remember, when he used to chase his wife until he finally wanted to be a girlfriend and even get married, there were times when he missed those times. Not wanting to be chased all the time, yes, but she missed seeing her husband's persistence to keep trying various ways, so he wouldn't be angry anymore.
Not going
No matter how emotional a person is, still no one wants to be left behind (the old one, you know, yes, until you pack up). When a person is angry, his heart is filled with various thoughts, but the partner's actions to "run away" would be a bad choice. Except, if the husband gives an explanation regarding his temporary departure, for example when he has to leave for work or has to leave because he is waiting for something urgent. Make sure your husband also gives an opportunity to discuss the argument afterward, "I have to go, we'll talk about it later, okay?" Don't forget, the message "I love you" at the end of the sentence has a big effect, you know. Including reducing emotions, reducing feelings of disappointment, and most importantly, maintaining trust.
That should be enough, because basically, we must have understood the character of our partner. Maybe this also applies to the opposite, namely the husband's desire when he is angry with us. The point is, we all have the right to be angry in order to validate our individual feelings. However, our expectations when we are angry will be far, far, better if we convey it, without letting our partner be troubled and full of questions.
How, anyone want to add?