There are many things that don't go according to our plans in life. Often times, the incident suddenly makes emotions overflow to want to blame the situation. However, often it is stuck in the heart and mind.
Holding on to anger isn't always a good thing, but venting it isn't always a solution. That said, the way a person expresses his anger is influenced by the level of intelligence, especially emotional intelligence.
Quoted from Inc., Justin Bariso, an author of EQ Applied and an emotional intelligence development consultant, and Claudia Fulga, senior vice president of HR development and leadership for Fivestars, share ideas on how someone with good emotional intelligence deals with anger.
Accept That Anger
When you can't change the situation, all you can do is accept it and move forward. Even if it doesn't solve the problem at the time, acceptance can help you think better.
"It's important to recognize that we may not be perfect and we can't be perfect for all aspects of our lives, all the time," says Fulga.
Be honest with yourself and the people around you and find ways to support yourself to be even better. Trust me, it will make the days better.
Try Taming Negative Thoughts
When emotions overwhelm us, negative thoughts often envelop and annoy us. However, Fulga cautions, that "90% of the time, these thoughts are not true or real. And although you won't be able to get rid of those negative thoughts, you can certainly control and tame them.
When you hear bad news, try to understand that the first response is an emotional response, then a more rational response emerges. So, learn to refrain from emotional responses. Admit, accept and meet again tomorrow until your rationale emerges.
Have a Fun Routine
Emotions that peak can be trained by increasing self-awareness and doing activities that can relieve it. "Everyone is different, so it's very important to find what suits you, is that going outside? Going for a walk? Writing a journal?," explains Fulga.
In other words, you need to find fun activities that make you a better person. Whether with creative activities, cleaning, not holding the phone all day, or meeting new people.
Find at least three of the most impactful things and do those things.
Sharing Experience
Everyone has had a tough experience in their life. While not in the same shoes, as the saying goes, people who have been through major storms have the opportunity to build stronger relationships.
"Sometimes you can find clarity by getting out of your own mind, by sharing your experiences with others," says Fulga. Sometimes we don't know how many people feel the same way as us.