Starting from unimportant vent to excessive admiration. Here are some reasons why the office is a place of infidelity. You agree?
Yes, yes, yes, right. Cheating can be anywhere. Cheating depends on the person. Cheating can also be started from sending messages on social media accounts. Even with people I didn't know before. But according to the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, the office is the most vulnerable place for an affair. Why? Here's why.
Most spend time together
When someone spends too much time with other people especially the opposite sex (in this case colleagues or bosses at work), it's not impossible that they have the opportunity to really get to know each other. Romance affairs can appear slowly, you know. The relationship may begin as a platonic friendship or a normal working relationship, but because of spending too much time together, there may be sparks of attraction, gradually growing need for each other, and eventually liking each other. In the beginning, it may only start from a light flirting, if not controlled, it can become a more serious relationship.
Excessive admiration
At first, it was just admiring the charming, caring, charismatic, and kind-hearted attitude of colleagues or superiors. But because then it is felt continuously, especially if the colleague or boss pays more attention to us. Duh, the heart feels so flowery, so that the couple looks 'less' in our eyes. This can then easily provoke an affair based on excessive admiration.
Feels like finding the right person
They both like to watch MotoGP, they both like to discuss philosophy, they both like to eat seafood, they both like to stay up late. Why did you meet him now? In this office? After I became someone else's? Aih, why, so it looks like a song lyric? The point is, when we find someone who we think is a suitable person, then we meet every day, plus we get more attention, then the official partner is looked for and doesn't match.
Not finding happiness at home
This could be the starting point for an affair in the office. When a household with a husband is not the household we desire. Or as simple as we and our husbands are standing at saturation point, maybe because we have been married for decades, and just 'just like that', then when we meet someone in the office who gives attention, discusses many things with us, or provides solutions to problems we are facing. face it, everything is so beautiful. Moreover, the attention is given every day, and the time spent with him is also longer.
“Forgot Status” when at the office
This may happen to some people, yes. When you arrive at the office, the world is different from the world at home. It's as if the status is back single when in the office. This 'forgetting status' condition is prone to causing infidelity. You know the term 'office boyfriend' or 'office girlfriend'? This term is often used when someone has a TTM at the office. At first they were only friends, but if they were maintained, they could turn into a more serious, even binding relationship.
Most of the talk is not important
Although it may not be a vent about your partner, this brainstorming session can be a trigger for an illicit relationship between us and office friends. Unnecessary vents such as complaints against joint superiors, time-consuming work, even venting about children. Then in the vent session, you realize that all the similarities, compatibility, and advice that was given was able to fill a little empty space in the heart. What used to be unimportant to talk about, after a long time to worry about your partner, deh.