Sex during the fasting month doesn't mean it's forbidden, right? The important thing is to do it at the right time. Here are the tips, so that worship goes smoothly, the bed is peaceful.
Enduring hunger, thirst and lust from sunrise to sunset is an obligatory condition of fasting. In the month of fasting, husband and wife must be good at restraining their lusts, including sexual desire. But it doesn't mean that having sex throughout the month of Ramadan is prohibited, right? Sex is still safe to do in the month of fasting, as long as the timing must be right. Of course, this activity is carried out after breaking the fast, yes, so as not to break the fast. In addition, so that our bodies remain energized and can satisfy each other. So that worship is smooth, bed matters are safe in the month of fasting, try the following sex tips in the month of fasting, let's go.
Do it at night, shorten the duration or quickie sex before sahur
Sex should indeed be done at night, after all worship is done. Estimated hour is around 10 pm when it has given time for the body to digest the incoming food, so that the body is energized and the contents of the stomach are not shaken too much. But, the time to have sex should also not be done too late at night. This is to avoid disrupting sleep at night which ultimately makes it more difficult to wake up in the morning. It doesn't have to be too long either. Another way that can be tried is with speed sex which can be done before dawn or after dawn. Do quickie sex in the bedroom or in the bathroom, so you can take a junub shower right after. But what should be noted is, quickie sex sometimes does override foreplay. So make sure the vagina is not dry during penetration, or you can also use a lubricant.
Plan carefully
Sometimes the daily busyness of fasting makes sexual activity neglected. Not to mention if you still have a toddler. It seems a bit difficult to steal time so that you can still make out with your partner. For that, there is nothing wrong with planning this carefully. For example, you can give special codes to your partner, to enjoy a special night after iftar. Cooperate so that the child can sleep earlier than usual, so that sexual activity can be done not too late at night.
Take care of nutritional intake before 'battle'
In order to stay energized while in bed, nutritional intake needs to be considered. According to the National Health Service (NHS) United Kingdom, England, sexual activity can actually burn the body's calories. This is reinforced through a study by Julie Frappier and several researchers in the UK entitled "Energy Expenditure during Sexual Activity in Young Healthy Couples". The study, published in 2013 and proved that sexual activity can burn calories up to 101 kcal for men and 69 kcal for women. For this reason, because sexual activity is very energy-consuming, it is better to do it two hours after breaking the fast. If you force it on an empty stomach, the result will be that you don't have enough energy and get tired easily, leading to your partner being dissatisfied because they aren't all out.
Get rid of guilt
Throw away the thought that sex during the holy month is a sin. Understand that the sin is if sex is done before the time of breaking the fast. We can still enjoy time together to make out throughout the month of fasting without disturbing the solemnity of worship. So, don't worry, don't let this interfere with your plans for tonight with your beloved husband, OK?
junub bath trick
"I want sex, but taking a shower at night makes me lazy." Don't let this be an excuse not to have sex with your partner. It must be admitted that sometimes taking a junub bath is the reason we refuse a partner to have sex in the month of fasting. However, this should not be an obstacle. Because we don't have to take a junub bath just after the sexual activity is over if it's done at night. Taking a junub bath can be done after sahur, before dawn so that the body is fresher and ready for activities again. Instead we should avoid taking junub baths at night because this habit is prone to causing many diseases.
The point is that with careful planning, sex can still be done without breaking the fast. On the other hand, in order for fasting to run smoothly during the day, you should avoid activities that can stimulate lust. For example, kissing your partner, watching movies with sexual scenes and other things that can potentially arouse sexual desire.